Hello Dr. Gless,
I am a retired Professor of Physical Sciences; I would really like to know about sex therapy. I loved teaching and I suspect that many of my colleagues and students could gain by knowing about it. What kind of therapy is it? Is it essential to everyone? How can we use it or how can we take advantage of what you have to offer?
Thank you for your question in regard to sex therapy. First let me say that there is a range of help and information that people need about sex through their lifetime. It begins in sex education classes where students learn about how their bodies and emotions work.
I have found that many problems are cleared up just by people knowing the basic facts about sexuality. As an example, pregnancies in teenagers are lessened by decreasing their fears and improving their knowledge in several areas, such as choosing self-stimulation over being pressured into early sexual activity. Because research shows that women who are comfortable with masturbation go on to have enjoyable sex lives with their partners later in life. Also, men and women who understand that pre-ejaculate can contain sperm tend to choose safer-sex methods of exploration.
For more medical type challenges like difficulty getting an erection or a woman having problems getting aroused there can be a combination of medical and psychotherapeutic help. As an example, a man could have a problem getting an erection because he has diabetes or a woman could have a problem getting aroused because she is depressed. In addition to psychotherapy, the man may need to get his diabetes under control or the woman may need to see a psychiatrist for medication.
Of course, there are a lot of different reasons a man loses his erection or a woman can have difficulty with arousal. That is in part what sex therapy is about. It is sorting though what are the issues this particular couple has that makes their sex life not work at this time in their lives. Then the therapist gives them the tools and road map they need to get back to enjoying each other and their sex life together.
One of the solutions I have to offer are immediately downloadable self-hypnosis mp3s for both for men and for women. I have found that self-hypnosis is a good quick way to get change on a deeper emotional level. It is much less expensive than traditional psychotherapy and often gets good results. Thank you for your question and I hope this answers it.
Karen Gless, Ph.D.