As a survivor of sexual abuse, harassment and attacks, you have to deal with painful feelings all too often. You may experience blame, guilt and self-doubt–feelings that can get us all tied up and make us miserable. These feelings start out as a survival technique and then become a habit. It was difficult to deal… Read More
Intimacy, Loneliness and the Internet
Sadly, it seems that there is an epidemic of loneliness in the U.S. The senator from Nebraska, Ben Sasse, has written a book, The Vanishing American Adult, that examines, among other things, the ways that the internet leads to loneliness. The irony of the internet is that as we reach out to more and more people,… Read More
How to Rock your Worlds
A while ago I received an email that started: “I have been in my relationship for 20 years. Now that my wife and I are retired I want to solve problems we have been having with our sex life. My wife seldom orgasms and I have been having problems with my erections. I was wondering… Read More
Even Small Adventures Bring Excitement to Life
Even Small Adventures Bring Excitement to Life. Here is One of Mine. What are Yours? I hope you enjoy this video as much as I do. I live where wild turkeys are really rare. So to my shock about Thanksgiving time when my husband and I were hiking on Palomar Mountain we saw some wild… Read More
What Does Your Love Life Say About Your Relationship?
Sometimes the first indication that something is wrong in your relationship is that one or both of you no longer want sex and your love life is suffering. It is typically the woman, but I have worked with men who have responded this way too. Couples come in saying, “My partner doesn’t seem interested in… Read More
Stuck in a Loveless Relationship? How to Reignite Love
What happens if you decide that being in love is not something that happens to you, but something that you do? Many couples who have been together for many years feel like they are stuck in a loveless relationship and they are just going through the motions. This can happen when a couple is caught… Read More